It’s hard to build things that last. Everything man-made is constantly eroding and cracking and crumbling. God intended sister-love to be life long, but like all good things, sister-love doesn’t take care of itself.
Christian sisters grow in their relationship. They see things more clearly as time passes, they learn to let go of resentments, and they learn to cut their siblings some slack. They see that our patient God works it both ways—always making our lives better, sometimes through... Read More
Here are some easy things: being judgmental about your brothers, criticizing, chopping down to size, staying aloof, not caring, running them down behind their backs. Here are some hard things: staying close to the family “black sheep,” listening with an open mind, telling the truth in love, taking abuse.
Jesus spoke the following words originally about “church brothers,” but if they are true in church, how much more are they true in the family? “If your brother sins against you,... Read More
The closer you live to other people, the easier it becomes to hurt them. You know how to push all your family’s buttons, don’t you? We’re all so doggone insecure that we often resent a sibling’s success. By nature we assume that there is only one size pie of family benefits and that if one kid gets something nice, it automatically means a smaller slice for me.
You have the power to wound deep. You also have the power to... Read More
Rebellion can hang on for a long time—even when young adults are having their own children. Christian grandparents can play a huge role in making sure that their grandchildren are baptized and have heard the great news of God’s love for them, especially when that middle generation is dropping the ball.
Psalm 78:4,6 encourages older Christians to take great pains to pass on their faith to the younger ones: “We will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the... Read More
“I’m really sorry, Mom,” she apologized, as she picked up the broken candy dish that her toddler had accidentally demolished. “No problem,” Grandma said lightheartedly. “I can always get another one.” The younger woman’s jaw dropped as she wondered, “Who is this woman? She sure is different from the days when I was the one breaking her stuff.”
Colossians 3:8 says to all people who claim to be Christians, “Now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these:... Read More
Isn’t it fun to see older adults get giddy about becoming grandparents? What is it about another generation of messy, needy babies that gets them so excited? And what is it about grandparents that makes grandkids appreciate them so much?
Maybe it’s because people who were aware of their own faults as parents are grateful to God to have another shot at helping to raise children. Maybe it’s because maturity brings serenity. When you’re more secure in your own identity,... Read More
Ah, if age only could; if youth only knew. There is a sweet trade-off, a sweet equilibrium to the way God designed human life. What older person has not intensely envied the young for their energy and strength? What older person has not felt a pang of sadness at the loss of his or her own youthful vitality? Have not the young always thought that since older people look saggier and talk slower, therefore they must also be dumber?
Not... Read More
By the time you are done with schooling and ready to enter the workforce, you have all the excuses you will ever need to be a failure in life. The persistent ridicule from siblings or parents? Are you missing a parent? Been physically or sexually abused? Our world is full of adults who are haunted by past hurts and just don’t think they can ever break free.
St. Paul had abundant excuses available to justify quitting his divine mission. He... Read More