Let’s be honest. As people stand in front of church promising to love, honor, and cherish until death parts them, we know it doesn’t always work out that way. The reality is that divorce will continue to happen until Jesus returns because this world is hard and broken and messy.
Often, the church—and by “church” I mean the members who worship there—don’t know how to act when a marriage ends. A funeral? Well, we offer meals and send flowers and hug and cry with the mourners, but when a marriage dies, it seems that Christians freeze at the exact time when they are needed most.
What makes me sad is listening to the stories of people who ended up not only losing their spouse but also their church family because it was awkward or ostracizing. At a time when people are changing homes, separating finances, and worrying what friends and family will think of them, this is not the time to add to their hurt because of a lack of love from the body of Christ, which God designed so that “if one part suffers, every part suffers with it” (1 Corinthians 12:26).
How can you suffer with someone? Here are a few ideas on how you can support and love the people around you as they walk through their divorce.
What else would you add to the list? Please leave your suggestions in the comments!
Linda Buxa is a writer and editor who is thankful for the body of Christ, which God gave us to support everyone who is hurting.
What does God's Word say about divorce? Watch Pastor Mike Novotny's series on Your Time of Grace!