Unless you’ve been set up with an arranged marriage, your spouse is the only family member you get to choose. Parents, siblings, cousins, kids—they are who they are. God just plops them into our lives. But a spouse—that’s someone we get to pick. Since we get to choose who we’re going to marry, it’s best to not get married too quickly.
Now, by that I don’t mean you have to have long engagements. I also don’t mean that you shouldn’t get married young. (It’s a huge blessing from God if you get to share the last part of your “younger years” with your spouse.)
Here’s what I do mean: Don’t rush into getting married. You get a choice. And there are some big things to consider before saying, “I do.” If you’re thinking you’d like to get married someday or if you know someone who might want to get married someday, here are a few important factors to carefully think through:
The returns on these marriage investments are tremendous! And trust me, you’ll thank yourself for not rushing in.
Proverbs 21:19 says, “Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.” But Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” I once heard someone put it this way: “Your choice in a spouse will be the difference in whether you set up for yourself heaven or hell on earth.”
Kurt Wetzel met his wife, Stephanie, in college and they got married a month after they graduated. Marrying her was the best decision he’s made. They live in Boise, Idaho, where Kurt is a pastor. They have three children (Hannah, Teddy, and Eva) and another on the way.
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