I stopped to talk to a neighbor and friend from church at the end of my walk. It didn’t take long for us to discuss the ever-present worries and fears we have for our children. We would be the first to admit worrying is pointless, irrational, and ridiculous. We beat ourselves up for doing it, but still, as moms, it is our natural sinful bent.
That’s why moms need to pray for wisdom. My favorite definition for wisdom is from Chuck Swindoll: “wisdom is insight for living.” If God endows me with wisdom, I will mother well. I don’t want to be impulsive, reactive, and shortsighted. I don’t want to spew words that tear down and undermine my children’s trust. I want to know what to say and do in the increasingly difficult circumstances that pop up.
It’s equally crucial to pray for God to give our children wisdom. Wisdom is insight into what is dangerous, what is foolish, and what is worthwhile. Wisdom will direct them to run or stand their ground depending on the circumstances and their skill set. Wisdom guides them to prepare for the days ahead instead of living only for the here and now. Wisdom is all encompassing, affecting every relationship and helping them to let their lights shine: “A wise person’s heart controls his speech, and what he says helps others learn” (Proverbs 16:23 GW).
Not long ago I was weeding at the end of my driveway when I saw a car turning the corner. Two young men (maybe 20 years old) on skateboards were holding on to the back of the car. My son’s friend drove into our drive less than a minute later and said he nearly hit the boys. I warned the four boys at my house, ages 16-20, that it was a terrible idea and added that I hoped to never see or hear of any of them doing it.
My son responded, “Don’t worry, Mom. I’ll be the one driving.”
It was wisdom in that moment, and for days afterward, that drove me to pray for many more specific things, including that my children are never directly responsible for the intentional or unintentional harm of others and that their frontal cortexes, which aid in decision-making, would fully form without delay.
The book of Proverbs tells us wisdom is better than gold, and understanding should be chosen over silver (16:16). To put it in our terms, wisdom is better than the high-paying job or lottery payout. Insight to godly living will bring joy that money can’t. And here’s the kicker. It’s free! Jesus’ half brother James tells us if we lack wisdom, we ought to pray for it, and God will generously give it to us (James 1:5). If your mom brain works like mine, that’s an outstanding deal. It’s a freebie of great worth!
Moms, pray for wisdom. And pray God generously bestows it on your children too. Your family will be blessed exponentially because of it.
Amber Albee Swenson is a writer, speaker, and blogger. Her husband and four children keep life exciting and give her lots to write and pray about. Mother, wife, and author are treasured positions, but child of God is her identity.
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