It’s not such a bad thing for Christians not to be in complete control of everything. Just by being human, Christians can become oppressive, or careless, or heedless, or stop listening, just like anyone else when they’re the majority, or in positions of authority.
And at times like this, in incidents such as the Ted Haggard story, it’s healthy to be criticized, and it’s healthy to acknowledge foibles, and even to have somebody mocking your excesses. It’s good to have critics, even if those critics tend to be non-Christians. We need to be very careful how we look, and you cannot convey a sincere message if you’re suspected of being a hypocrite.
And so the only way you can grow past the perception of hypocrisy, if you’re associated with a group whose leader is involved in an incident like this, is by honest admission of guilt. Other leaders need to hold the guy accountable (as Rev. Haggard's board did) and be willing to submit to the scorn, and say, “We deserve it.”
And we also need to look people right in the eye and say, “You were right. This was blatant hypocrisy on his part. However, the fact that he betrayed the standards does not make the standards wrong.”