One of you is a neat freak, and the other doesn’t worry much about a few socks on the floor here and there. One of you is a saver; one is a spender. One is always on time; the other is much more relaxed about the clock. One of you loves noise and energy and parties, and the other loves quiet time at home. One of you is creative and passionate, which is nice, but also prone to leave a... Read More
Ever hear one of your friends say, “I have to take care of me for a change.” “It’s my time now.” “I need to be looking out for number one.” Unfortunately the people who say these things don’t mean Jesus Christ. They mean themselves.
Sinners like you and me do not need to go to grad school or subscribe to webinars on how to be selfish. We are born with software already installed and functioning. Our parents (hopefully!) slowly trained... Read More
Have you ever seen the sappy Ryan O’Neal/Ali MacGraw movie romance entitled Love Story? MacGraw played a character who was dying, and at her bedside O’Neal, choking and tearful, said he was sorry. MacGraw then unloaded a line that has done a lot of damage to relationships and marriages everywhere: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”
Apologizing is hard work. Apologizing and changing your behaviors is even harder, and what makes it so hard is pride. Dating and... Read More
My husband and I will celebrate our anniversary soon. Honestly, we’ve gotten along remarkably well, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have things to work on.
Over the course of our 19 years, near miraculously, I have learned how to tell him my concerns without crying. But you know what? I still need to work on being clear about my requests. Thankfully, he covers my flaws by having (sort of) learned to read my mind. This ridiculous exchange clearly demonstrates... Read More
I never thought Kim and I would be the couple who needed counseling. But we were. So we went.
We were still in love seven years into marriage, but the flame was starting to flicker just a bit. So before it got any worse, we reached out for help. In the moment, I misdiagnosed our problem, mistaking the symptom for the sickness, but looking back, our issue should have been so obvious . .
We had babies.
God gave us... Read More