My husband and I will celebrate our anniversary soon. Honestly, we’ve gotten along remarkably well, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have things to work on.
Over the course of our 19 years, near miraculously, I have learned how to tell him my concerns without crying. But you know what? I still need to work on being clear about my requests. Thankfully, he covers my flaws by having (sort of) learned to read my mind. This ridiculous exchange clearly demonstrates... Read More
I never thought Kim and I would be the couple who needed counseling. But we were. So we went.
We were still in love seven years into marriage, but the flame was starting to flicker just a bit. So before it got any worse, we reached out for help. In the moment, I misdiagnosed our problem, mistaking the symptom for the sickness, but looking back, our issue should have been so obvious . .
We had babies.
God gave us... Read More
My poor husband. Well, technically, my poor then-boyfriend.
We were dating long (and I mean LONG) distance. I was in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, and he was in Kodiak, Alaska.
I really liked him but thought that distance might have made it hard for me to really know him. So on one visit, I asked if he would work through a book with me. In it, the author asked all sorts of questions regarding how we were raised, family dynamics, views on... Read More
An Islamic council of clerics and scholars in Pakistan has proposed a bill that will make it legal to lightly beat your wife. The chairman of the Council of Islamic Ideology, Muhammad Kahn Sherani, said, “If you want her to mend her ways, you should first advise her. . . . If she refuses, stop talking to her . . . stop sharing a bed with her, and if things do not change, get a bit strict.”
Things that justify... Read More
I recently found myself slightly obsessed and terrified about my marriage.
I’m in a weird season with a ton of new marriages all around me mixed with a bunch of crumbling marriages in the lives of people I know very well—family members, friends, coaching clients.
For better or for worse (pun intended), there’s a lot of focus on marriage all around me.
All of this thinking about marriage, talking about marriage, and working on marriage totally rubbed off on me.... Read More