This week I’ve heard some pretty sad stories from Christians. They shared with me that they are going through hard times (or have in the past), and then told me the audacious comments that other Christians have said to them in the middle of their struggle.
“You didn’t have enough faith.”
“If you had been in a closer relationship with God, this wouldn’t have happened.”
“You must not be praying hard enough.”
What? Really? Sheesh!
Those comments—and the intent behind... Read More
It wasn’t that big of a deal. Of all the naughty things my son has done, this wasn’t really the worst of them.
He’s a pastor’s son, so he spends a good amount of time at church, which makes him pretty comfortable there. I was gathering my things in the lobby and getting ready to take him and my daughter home when I saw him walk up to the window, put both hands on the glass, and smush his face... Read More
“I hate gay people.” “White power lol.” “KKK.”
If you haven’t heard, these are direct quotes from Milwaukee Brewers pitcher Josh Hader. During the 2018 All-Star Game, some of Hader’s old Twitter posts were discovered and spread across the internet, making his dismal pitching performance that night the least of his problems.
In the weeks since, the reactions have been passionate and polarizing. Many of Hader’s teammates vouched for his current character, assuring the media that the man they know... Read More
The footage caught the moment a little kid missed a baseball that was tossed to him. The ball went under his seat, a man grabbed it, and handed it to his wife.
The video ended there—and the man was vilified on social media:
“Karma dictates that one day he’ll be sitting in that seat and get a line drive right in the chops.”
“I’d divorce my husband for being that kind of a [bleep]! I’m a good honest woman that... Read More
This year my mammogram detected “something,” and I was called back for further testing. The wait from Monday to Friday was reflective to say the least.
I had one other symptom that hadn’t raised alarms, but once there was concern, the concern was great.
I started wondering if there is ever a time we don’t want more. When do we have enough money, things, or time?
When does striving cease?
A little over five years ago, I began working as... Read More
Why don’t you drive 45 mph on the freeway?
If reckless driving can end lives and lead feet can lead to large tickets, why don’t you drive 45 mph when you see the 70 mph sign?
I bet you have some instant answers to that question. First, you’re a busy person, and that speed would not help your to-do list get done. Second, there are other busy people, and slowing down traffic will not help those dads get back to... Read More
When my husband and I were expecting our first child, we were buying a used vehicle. (Only because I had totaled his pickup by hitting a patch of black ice and gently rolling it over in the ditch.) After we settled on the price for the Alaska-worthy SUV, the seller informed us that she had a higher offer from someone else but was taking less money because she wanted us to have the car.
We were so surprised—and thankful!
Three... Read More
I never thought Kim and I would be the couple who needed counseling. But we were. So we went.
We were still in love seven years into marriage, but the flame was starting to flicker just a bit. So before it got any worse, we reached out for help. In the moment, I misdiagnosed our problem, mistaking the symptom for the sickness, but looking back, our issue should have been so obvious . .
We had babies.
God gave us... Read More
For many things, I’m a pretty laid-back mom.
But there we were, hiking Pyramid Mountain in Kodiak, Alaska, when I couldn’t seem to stop worrying.
I had hiked that mountain before—years ago—but this time I was with my kids. And that changed everything. As we scrambled up the final rocky portion to reach the top, I saw with fresh eyes how one wrong step either way would end in severe injury or tragedy.
It’s a good thing they were faster... Read More
“So, what did your parents teach you about sex?” one of my friends asked a mutual friend as we devoured pizza on his back deck. His blank expression answered the question even before he replied, “I only knew what I learned from porn.”
“Pastor, do you agree with everything in that marriage book you gave us?” a newlywed husband asked me. “Hmm . . . what is bothering you?” I responded. “Oral sex,” he quietly mentioned. “That’s wrong to do,... Read More