Forgiveness, not payback

It’s hard to forgive. I know. I am still holding onto some old painful memories as though they were treasury bonds. But I know this, and I want you to know it too: refusing to forgive those who have hurt you will only make you emotionally (and maybe physically) sick.
Refusal to forgive keeps you trapped in an anger prison. Refusal to forgive leads to a false sense of moral superiority. Refusal to forgive poisons and embitters your spirit. Refusal to forgive motivates Christ to withhold the forgiveness you need (yeah, seriously—check out Matthew 6:15).
Want to start off the new year right? Here’s a better way. Fill your soul with joyful praise to your forgiving Savior. Fill your heart with the same spirit he shows you: “Bear with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgive each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (Colossian 3:13). And know this—no matter how hard that may seem, the Lord will always give you the strength to do what is right.