At first glance, the Bible’s instructions for husbands sound right up our male fantasy alley. The husband is head of the wife? Cool. “Honey, go make dinner while I take a nap.” But listen to how the Bible describes Christian headship: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). You might say that Christ loved us to death. His death.
This is Christ-love for husbands: loving her not for what I get out of it but loving to give, loving to make her life better, loving in terms that make sense to her. This is headship: not exhausting her with my expectations and demands but taking the lead in service and in giving myself up for her.
You have bigger muscles and a bigger frame, not to enforce your will but to provide her with a feeling of security. You have less emotional vulnerability so that you can be the rock in her life.
Let’s review: What happens when you lead in your home the way Christ leads his people? She will love it. Christ will love it. You will love it.
Pastor Mark Jeske has been bringing the Word of God to viewers of Time of Grace since the program began airing in late 2001. A Milwaukee native, Pastor Jeske has served as the senior pastor at St. Marcus, a multicultural congregation on Milwaukee’s near north side since 1980. In addition, he is the author of six books and dozens of devotional booklets on various topics.
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