My wife and I got married as very young people by today’s standards. My approach wasn’t too sophisticated. I saw her one day in college. She looked good to me, so I got to know her. She still looked good to me, so I asked her to marry me. At some level I must have looked good to her because she said yes. We made a commitment to God and each other to stop looking and make a marriage.
Solomon said, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). I’m not aware of any passage stating the converse is true, so I ought not to pretend I know what marriage is like for a woman. But I found what is good, and I hope it’s good for my wife too. I know it would be better for her if I really understood my God-given responsibility. “Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting” (Ephesians 5:25 MSG). I confess that early on I tried to make sure she understood her responsibilities. I had no right because I had no clue. I know I have some catching up to do.
I want her marriage to be as good as mine is because after all these years, she still looks good to me.
Jason had a career as a teacher, counselor, and leader. He has written and spoken extensively on a variety of topics related to the Christian life. He has been a contributing writer for Time of Grace since 2010. He has authored Grace Moments devotions and Straight Talk Books including, Help Me, Jesus; One Day Full of Grace; and When in Doubt. Jason lives with his wife, Nancy, in Wisconsin.
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