Is compartmentalizing good? It’s good if it means that guys sort all their tools and sports gear and keep everything in the proper bins and drawers. It’s horrible if it means that they think they live in different worlds that have nothing to do with each other. It’s horrible when a Christian man’s faith does not influence his business ethics. It’s horrible when a man professes loyalty to his wife at home and then plays with the females in his... Read More
Here’s another life puzzle: why do men generally have such a height, weight, and musculature advantage on women? Well, in God’s loving plan his men have been given physical strength in order to provide stability and security so that everyone else can flourish.
Alas, some men take unfair advantage of their strength. First Peter 3:7 challenges men to a better way: “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as... Read More
When guys’ conversations these days turn to gender roles, the dominant mood is confusion. We don’t know who we’re supposed to be anymore. It appears that nobody either expects or wants us to be Ward Cleaver. Now what? Do we still pick up the check? Are we still supposed to hold doors and always volunteer for the dirty and dangerous jobs?
Well, guess what? Healthy homes still do best when the man leads. When the man in a family is... Read More
Who am I?
Who was I as a child? What kind of teenager was I? How did people see me as a young adult, and what am I like now as someone who is middle-aged? What kind of senior citizen will I be?
Does this sound like a load of introspective navel gazing? Well, it’s good to be self-aware. We are all caught up in many webs of relationships. Each bond that we have with another human being brings with... Read More
More than half of all Americans will die intestate. Do you know that word? It means that they have no written Last Will and Testament. If you die intestate, the state will make all decisions regarding the disposition of your property and then charge your estate for its services.
Why on earth would people not make a will? Well, people do procrastinate, assuming that someday they will get around to it and never do. Or they reason that when they’re... Read More
Have you ever heard of the generational theory? The concept is that there are very different cultures, including money cultures, depending on how old you are. People from the Depression/World War II generation (the “Builders”) hate debt, whereas people from the iPod generation (the “Millennials”) tend not to worry about borrowing. Builders pay cash; Millennials just get another credit card.
When it comes to borrowing, the Builders are wiser. Every financial planner worth a dime will tell you to pay... Read More
The first decade of the 21st century has certainly been a miserable financial experience for many people.
People who gambled too much money on new Internet stocks were scorched when the dot.com bubble burst. People who shouldn’t have been able to buy a home were given no-document/no-money-down loans. People who had only hazy notions of home financing signed up for adjustable rate mortgages and then reacted in panic and dismay as the rates automatically adjusted upward (one escalator you don’t... Read More
Americans used to be good savers (10% of personal income went into savings) and now have become terrible savers (0% or even less, which means that people are actually burning up their savings for daily expenses). People who save none of their income probably are suffering from “I Must Have It Now” syndrome.
Waiting for things cheerfully is learned behavior. People who didn’t learn it as children can cause some real wreckage as adults.
God tends to ration out his... Read More
You know, in all honesty we’d have to admit that in our prayers we probably do a lot of asking for more things. What we don’t do enough of is ask for wisdom and strength to take better care of the things we already have. We’re all custodians and managers of God’s generosity, and let’s face it, it’s easy to take our possessions, our jobs, and our families for granted and to neglect them as we dream about an upgrade.... Read More