Do you like to be told what to do? No? Well, to be honest, I don’t either. Inside each of our brains is a mulish arrogance, a perverse stubbornness to do everything our way. My agenda is what’s important to me. Your agenda is not.
Tell you what—people like that are unemployable. You can’t hold a job if you aren’t willing to serve someone else’s needs and let someone else tell you what to do.
This is why parents have... Read More
Aretha Franklin was right—everybody needs respect. We are all half starved for lack of respect. Hunger for respect is what drives young men into joining gangs. It’s what motivates people to work obscenely long hours at their jobs or to feel driven to stack up university degrees after their names.
Now, kids, here’s the secret. To get respect, you first give it. Obviously, respecting God himself comes first. In second place come parents. It’s no coincidence that the very first... Read More
Halloween is one of the biggest nights of the year, at least if you run a bar, sell candy, or rent costumes. People are endlessly fascinated with the legends and mythology of death, spirits, and the afterlife. Trick-or-treat, jack-o-lanterns, cobwebs, and the colors of black and orange dominate stores for the entire month of October.
Some of it is harmless fun, and some of what goes on is evil—the vandalism and fascination with black magic and satanic powers. We have... Read More
Want to infuriate a stay-at-home mother of young children? Ask her when she’s going back to work and you’re likely to hear, “Back? I never stopped!”
Perhaps some women’s dream of a great life is easy wealth, days of shopping and travel, unlimited chocolate, and plenty of servants. Well, maybe God will give you that life. But there is a terrible risk to wealth. You can get so materialistic that you lose your sense of need for a Savior and... Read More
When the cameras close in on professional athletes, they never say, “Hi, Dad,” do they? It’s always, “Hi, Mom.” It’s not that dads are unimportant.
But—in their moment of triumph people go with their gut. They just blurt out a joyful response. And when they want to share joy and give credit, where do their hearts go? To Mom.
Moms, what does that tell you about the value of sharing your faith in Christ with your kids? God is entrusting... Read More
One of the most miserable parts of the baggage most women have to drag around during their lives is the feeling of insecurity and anxiety. Some men worry. Most of the women I know worry a lot.
That constant, chronic fear can leach into your children’s attitudes like contaminations seeping into your drinking water. Kids need their moms to model trust and confidence in the Lord. Moms, when you are in prayer with your Lord, present not only your fears... Read More
There must be something in estrogen that promotes development of human memory. Men would be sunk without their wives’ formidable ability to remember birthdays, anniversaries, relatives’ names, and children’s clothing sizes.
The downside to that phenomenal memory is that women also tend to remember all too vividly the failings of their husbands and children. When those memories bring back pain, it gets harder to forgive.
We can’t delete memories as if they were computer files. How can you forgive when... Read More
Do you get braggy Christmas letters from friends and relatives? They’re pretty hard to take, aren’t they? I don’t know if the writer is bragging more about her spectacular children or boasting about what a fabulous mother she is.
But the reverse is worse—a mom who belittles her children, expects them to fail, or is so perfectionistic that nothing is ever good enough for her. Single moms have an additional peril to overcome—how do you not take out your frustration... Read More
God commanded husbands to love their wives, which is a woman’s greatest need. But he didn’t tell wives to love their husbands. Not that that’s unimportant—men like to be loved. But they absolutely must have respect. There can’t be a healthy marriage when a man does not feel respected in his own home.
An Oprah episode a while back featured a panel of married women. They poured out stories of how, when they get together with other women, the conversation... Read More