One of the features of life in families that suffer from intergenerational poverty is that the kids have no close family role models of people who have graduated from school and who go to work on time every day. God loves work. He does it all day every day himself, and he designed his creatures to work too. God had Adam working all day on his creation day even before he introduced him to his beautiful wife, Eve.
There were... Read More
Have you noticed that all of life is a balancing act? Foolish people can overdo even good and virtuous things, things like eating, working, saving money, and exercising.
Are you a fan of reality TV? You might have seen some shows where nannies have to straighten out clueless parents who don’t know how to parent. Bad fathers are always easy targets. It seems as though TV dads are either spineless softies or stubborn tyrants. There are precious few Bill Cosbys... Read More
Women love emotional sharing. Sometimes their husbands drive them crazy because they just don’t seem to feel anything or want to talk about things of the heart. But, ladies, there is a huge upside here. Men can discipline without melting emotionally. They can insist on right behavior even when the kids think they are too cool, too busy, or too smart to have to endure this clearly unnecessary hardship.
Happy is the family where there is a man who knows... Read More
Is compartmentalizing good? It’s good if it means that guys sort all their tools and sports gear and keep everything in the proper bins and drawers. It’s horrible if it means that they think they live in different worlds that have nothing to do with each other. It’s horrible when a Christian man’s faith does not influence his business ethics. It’s horrible when a man professes loyalty to his wife at home and then plays with the females in his... Read More
Here’s another life puzzle: why do men generally have such a height, weight, and musculature advantage on women? Well, in God’s loving plan his men have been given physical strength in order to provide stability and security so that everyone else can flourish.
Alas, some men take unfair advantage of their strength. First Peter 3:7 challenges men to a better way: “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as... Read More
When guys’ conversations these days turn to gender roles, the dominant mood is confusion. We don’t know who we’re supposed to be anymore. It appears that nobody either expects or wants us to be Ward Cleaver. Now what? Do we still pick up the check? Are we still supposed to hold doors and always volunteer for the dirty and dangerous jobs?
Well, guess what? Healthy homes still do best when the man leads. When the man in a family is... Read More
Who am I?
Who was I as a child? What kind of teenager was I? How did people see me as a young adult, and what am I like now as someone who is middle-aged? What kind of senior citizen will I be?
Does this sound like a load of introspective navel gazing? Well, it’s good to be self-aware. We are all caught up in many webs of relationships. Each bond that we have with another human being brings with... Read More
More than half of all Americans will die intestate. Do you know that word? It means that they have no written Last Will and Testament. If you die intestate, the state will make all decisions regarding the disposition of your property and then charge your estate for its services.
Why on earth would people not make a will? Well, people do procrastinate, assuming that someday they will get around to it and never do. Or they reason that when they’re... Read More
Have you ever heard of the generational theory? The concept is that there are very different cultures, including money cultures, depending on how old you are. People from the Depression/World War II generation (the “Builders”) hate debt, whereas people from the iPod generation (the “Millennials”) tend not to worry about borrowing. Builders pay cash; Millennials just get another credit card.
When it comes to borrowing, the Builders are wiser. Every financial planner worth a dime will tell you to pay... Read More